June 7, 2017

Stay-At-Home Parent vs Working Parent

Stay at home momDo you ever just feel like life is passing by way to fast? Do you ever feel like you are missing out on so much? I would like to share this post in honor of my hubby and all other working parents out there. I currently read a post on my social news-feed about Stay-at-parents vs. Working Parents. I have personally done both, so I feel I have a right to share my opinion whether people like it or not.

Stop this war of who has it worse!! Instead of fighting about it we should be building one another up, and trying to understand each others point of view. Every mother and father has their own opinion about parenting and how to raise their children, and I understand that, but this war of "being the perfect parent or family" is not going to happen. There is no such thing and every family just needs to do what works for them.

When I look back to being a working parent, I still feel like I missed out on so much. Its probably because I did, but I can't do anything about it now. When you hit a certain age or have a tiny little baby it seems like life hits the fast forward button, and boom before you know it they become your enemy...lol By enemy I mean a back talking, sassy, argumentative, spoiled brat (If yours never gets there I bow to you). Thank goodness those moments pass and we can still have fun together. Plus I know all their tickle spots that no matter how mad they are make them laugh like a mad man!

I count my blessing today that my hubby is amazing and works his butt off so that I can now stay home with my babies. Being home with them has been the best gift a mother could ask for. I am here when they need me and we get to hang out together all day. No one could prepare any mother for being a stay at home mom. It has turned out to be a lot harder than I thought it would be, but I wouldn't change it for the world.

I cherish every moment and milestone I get to be present for, because I know somewhere a mom or dad is at work missing out. For example my hubby works for a local tree company and well in the summer especially he works very long hours (sometimes jobs call for him to also work weekends). He misses out on a lot of moments at home. I took it upon myself to make sure to record and photograph as many moments as I can for him. I have a computer and phone full of photos and videos that I share with him when we get time to sit and relax.

I know a photo or video could never compare to being there, but it is my attempt to share our days with him. I know some parents are gone for weeks, month, and even years for different jobs or career choices; and I personally could not even begin to imagine being one of those families, that would be tough. I am thankful for the new technology available for live video, video chat, and the quality of photographs I can take right on my phone. Families are able to stay connected on a whole other level than in the past, which is so important.

Now I want everyone to stop and take a moment with your phone or camera and just take picture of your family members. They do not have to pose or look at the camera, just capture them in the moment doing whatever it is they are doing. Now save it somewhere or go print the and store them wherever you store your pictures. Those tiny moments that seem like a bad picture now will mean the world to you in years to come. If all you have is enhanced, posed, and edited pictures take some of you and your family just being yourselves.

Also moms let your kiddos take a turn with the camera to capture you, because whether you look horrible or you are embarrassed of how you look; to your kids it will be a treasure in years to come. I am guilty of not being in photos for years. I take pictures of my family all the time, but there are not many of myself so in a future blog I will be sharing a photo session of me and only me (which I am still having a hard time with).

Thank you for reading and below I would like everyone to share below what kind of parent they are...Stay at home (Full-Time Parent), Working (Part-Time Parent), or Parent to be. Also leave a brief explanation of the hardest part about being the kind of parent you are, and what you love about it if anything?

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10 comments:

  1. I totally agree. I'm currently a working mom and I've learned it doesn't matter if you work or stay at home. Caring for the little one is all that's important. Thank you for such honesty!!!

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    1. Thank you, and yes what others think shouldn't matter. What you child thinks, and needs matter most!

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  2. As a work-at-home mama, the hardest part for me is the fact that I work at home but am also the full-time parent on duty most days! It's hard to be fully "present" for the girls when they're off from school and I have deadlines to meet, but I'm glad that working from home gives me flexibility in my schedule (e.g., to volunteer at their school).

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    1. It takes time to find our momma routines, but we always seem to pull through!!

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  3. I have always been blessed to be a stay at home mom but I have friends who feel blessed to be working moms... as long as the children are happy and loved I don't think one way is better than the other... Shell Maria

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  4. You are so right. It is such a personal thing. I always thought I'd want to be a stay at home mom, but honestly, I found the early days so hard I was gagging to go back to work, which taught me never to judge. Fortunately, I ended up being able to work at home so I've sort of had the best of both worlds.

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    1. Good for you! It is a hard transition to stay home, but it is so worth all the precious memories you get to build with you children.

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  5. Yes to all of This! I'm a SAHM and I don't devalue those who work full time and still get it done. We are a community of hard working women who provide for our family in our own ways. Regardless we take care of our family. That's the most important thing !

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    1. Yes thank you this war of who is better is ridiculous!! Thank you!

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