September 18, 2017

Snoring is not the only sign of sleep apnea!


Hello reader,

I have returned, and I am sorry about the absence, but this momma's schedule gets crazy this time of year. In the time it has been since I last posted my children started school, I started school, and we have gone through a surgery with our youngest daughter. It has been quite the adventure, but now that I have my schedule organized I am back and will be posting more regularly.

We are continuing our journey of helping our daughter get a good night's sleep. For the past two years we have been going through a battle of trying to get our daughter feeling better. If you are not already caught up then for a little back story please read the following posts.



For the avid follower and those that have been following our battle. We are nearing the end! How exciting to finally see the finish line! Last week our daughter went through a tonsillectomy, adenoidectomy, and a turbinoplasty (which is where they cauterize the turbinates in the nose to reduce swelling and open the airway). She is doing amazing and we are so anxious to see how well this surgery has worked. 

Our journey started with chronic migraines and behavioral issues, then later turned in to a case of extremely severe sleep apnea. When we were told that our daughter stops breathing 6 to 7 times in one hour we were in shock. The worst part of this journey was even now that we were aware all we could do was sit back and watch. There was nothing we could do to help her sleep. Now we have reached a point of hope to see our daughter get back to herself, and have fun with her sibling.


She has spent endless hours on the couch, in her bed, in our bed, or simply on the recliner in the living room, because her body was exhausted and her migraines were getting the best of her. It was a horrible sight to see, because she was such a bubbly little girl before it all began. Then she simply became a zombie in from of our eyes, and talk about emotional. 

It was frustrating at time, but once we saw the big picture and knew about what was happening it was just painful for us. We could not even imagine the pain she was feeling, but we knew if we didn't do something we were going to watch her get even worse. She was acting out really bad and we did not realize it was because of the pain she was feeling, but now that we do it all makes sense. I know when I am in pain I get flustered and I am not the nicest person to be around.

With that being said I would just like to reach out to other parent, grandparents, and guardians. I would like to share our story, because for years doctors and parents have overlooked the symptoms of sleep apnea. Our daughter would have been another looked over case had we not found somebody willing to over look the fact that she didn't snore. Our local hospital rejected the request to test her because she was not a snorer, but we were lucky enough to have an amazing neurologist in another town that set us up with a doctor at the hospital he works at.


When we arrived they were all super friendly and were half way convinced that maybe we were looking into this for no reason, because her tonsils were not enlarged, which is the next sign they check for after snoring. He went ahead and did the test anyway just to eliminate it from our list of possibilities. We spent the night with her and when we woke up the next morning our test was over and the sleep tech came in to inform us how it all went, and she informed us that our daughters have very severe sleep apnea for a child.

To my surprise we had our diagnosis, but now what? When I think of sleep apnea I think of old people that have to wear masks, but this was our 4 year old daughter! I had no idea kids could even have sleep apnea, and how will I get her to wear a mask? Well my husband and I asked what we were to do next, and the tech let us know that she would be referred to and Ear, Nose, and Throat doctor (ENT). 

When we went to the ENT they informed us of surgeries and other possibilities of thing they could correct, because she was still young enough. So last week she went under the knife and is no healing from her corrective surgeries. It will be a few weeks until we can do another sleep study to be sure that surgery was successful. If it was not then we will be starting over and possibly be getting a cpap mask and machine for out daughter. Most children do not have to undergo another test, but because she did not snore before, then we will not have an indicator of whether it worked or not.


The hardest challenge for us was not only the pain, and the behavioral problems, but simply the lack of symptoms we had heard of for sleep apnea. When we read articles and talked to the doctors they are looking for children that snore, are overweight, have enlarged tonsils and adenoids, or restless sleepers. It was not until later that they added in bed wetting and behavioral problems, which were two symptoms we did have, but with her not being a snorer or extremely restless they looked no further.

If you have even a hinkling that your child may have some sort of sleep deprivation, do not hesitate to ask your doctor to do a sleep study. Do not take no for an answer, because I almost did and look what happened. It was our answer and I am so glad that I was determined and was not giving up eliminating or proving the diagnosis. 

You know your child better than anyone, and they look to you for the answer to their...well everything! A child cannot always tell you exactly how they feel or on a scale of one to ten how bad their pain is. Our daughter had severe migraines and we still cannot imagine the pain she feels when she gets one! 

August 21, 2017

How Honest is Too Honest For Children?



Do you teach you children beyond textbook learning? I mean do you teach them about the things they do not learn about in school? The direction I am taking this is learning about the reality of the world around them. Like what drugs really do to people, what is going on in our country, or death. At what age do you talk to your children about these subjects? How early would you say is too early?



Well I have done the google search, and I have talked with my hubby; but are we wrong to be so honest with our children? We have taken a different approach with our children when it comes to the world they live in. Todays kids are finding out so much from technology and kids are sharing these things at school. My daughter is learning about things I didn't even hear of until I was twice her age. Why is this happening?

Well instead of panicking and making up some story about her dead cat, we told her he was hit my a car and we explained death to her. When she was harassed at school I told her that sometimes people are just assholes even if you play the nice card, and sometimes telling a teacher can make it worse. I mean seriously she was six, but I am no idiot, and I will not treat her like one. She is a child and todays world is so much different than when I was that age. I want her to know she can ask us anything, and we will be honest.

So I know some people are thinking we are the worst parents ever, but let me explain. We do not go out of our way to teach them about the bad, but if we are asked we spill. I would rather they learn from us than from some punk kid playing around on google, with not supervision. I do not believe in lying to my children, because then I wouldn't be practicing what I preach. What kind of message is that sending? Not that I really care what others say about our parenting, but seriously society is so ugly and if we hide them from it what will happen when to go out into it?


Even with holidays spirits like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny, I have explained them differently to where I am not lying, but I am not taking her childhood innocence either. She knows they will not come if she doesn't sleep, and she knows that when she gets old enough she will know who they are too. Its not a whole crazy lie, but its also not corrupting information, that will ruin their childhood.

For instance, when you child is harassed/bullied at school what do you tell them? I told my daughter to go elsewhere and stay away from that child and if it persisted tell me and we would go to the staff. The first few time I did have her tell a teacher and guess what the harassment got worse to the point she was physically violated by a child at recess, and as afraid as she was she did tell us, and honestly she helped a child that was having a very hard life outside of school and was taking it out on other kids.

I know not every story works out, but for this child it did and now she and my daughter are very good friends and I am so happy that my child was able to see her in a different light after everything that happened. She knew that this little girl needed friends and instead of being a jerk back or hating her for what happened my six year old daughter opened her heart and let that little girl into her life as a friend. It made my heart melt when she told me they were becoming friends.



I like to think it is because of our way of raising her, but maybe she is just a very special little girl. Whatever it is has rubbed off onto her sister, who by the way is a mouthy little jerk...lol Seriously though her little sister befriended one child last year with a weight problem. No one like him and they were always taunting him, so my five year old daughter stood up to his bullies for him and played with him at recess no matter what others had to say! How awesome is that?

I love my children, and I want them to come to their father and I with everything! Call me crazy for wanting to know everything my daughter has going on in her life. I am a helicopter parent and I want my daughter to be comfortable coming to me with ANYTHING!! I know as she grows she will get more distant, but maybe with the honesty we show her now will keep her somewhat close so we can keep her and her siblings safe from the ugliness in this world. I know I can't make them stay forever and they will grow and have their own lives, but I want them to have the best life they can while I have them.

We are not a wealthy family, and cannot take them on a big fancy vacation, or buy them the coolest new toys. We are also so far from perfect; but when it comes to our children they are our world. They always come first! We have changed our lives so much in that last eight years for them and I wouldn't change it for the world! They are amazing little babies and I cannot wait to see them become adults. I cannot wait to see where their lives takes them!


August 16, 2017

Like Father, Like Son


Do you have a son? Do you ever imagine what kind of man he will be when he is older? My son just turned two and he is so smart it is unbelievable. He surprises me everyday with a new word or new wonder. I look at him no as my baby, but now day he will be so much more and have babies of his own. I often wonder what kind of man he will be, as well as what kind of daddy he will be.


I imagine him being like his father, who by the way is an incredible husband, father, and hard worker. He is always there when we need him and he does everything for us. He keeps us safe, works to keep our family safe, warm, and fed. I hope our little boy will watch and learn! He could learn a lot from his daddy and when I see them together it makes my heart melt.

Daddy shows him his ways, and I am happy to watch them grow together. I watch them together, and it is like I get a glimpse of the man my little boy will hopefully someday become. My son has the most amazing dad in the world, who has the patience of...well okay our boy is 2 and it can be hard to have patience when he is moving tools, but you get the point. He is there and the smile on their faces are silent, but they say so much at the same time.


When it comes to our curious little boy he may be moms baby, but he is dads extra set of hands. He is already learning his way around a vehicle, and the shop. He is such great company to his daddy now, but when he is old enough daddy will have it made. His little body will be perfect to fit under all the vehicles, and his hands will be just the right size to fit in all the cracks.



For a man raising their little guy is like looking their retirement in the eye...lol I wonder if my husband can see the man that will take over for him. I imagine in the future while daddy sits and enjoys a cold drink, he will be  watching him do all the work. I am not a dad so maybe I am sending the wrong message, but that is how i picture it, because thats what I see when I look at my girls. Soon they will be cooking and cleaning, while is sit back and watch...lol

These two are so beautiful together and I cannot wait to document them growing together and watching my son learn everything his daddy knows. It will be a beautiful story he will be able to share with a son of his own!! A daddy is a special man that can never be forgotten. Even if daddy is a step daddy it is still special. Like they say so many men can father children, but it takes a special man to be a daddy!! Lets praise all this daddy's and show them how special they really are!! 

August 14, 2017

Life is Precious!


Do you ever just sit back and watch life pass you by? Do you ever just wish there was a pause button in your life; so you can enjoy that beautiful moment for just one more minute? I watch my children playing in the yard, or in the park wishing I could just hold on for a little longer. Now that the summer is ending, it has really hit me that so many moments are going to happen without me. They will be at school for most of the day soon, and I am honestly very sad. I am happy at the same time for the little break I will get, but mostly just sad.

Every time a new school year starts time speeds up and before I know it my kids are another year older. Following that year is an even faster summer, that I can never find enough days for all the adventures I want to share with them. (Sigh) I wish I could just find that damn remote to press pause for just a few moments. Why is it going by so fast, and what happened to my precious little babies that needed mom?

Everyday these beautiful little people I created become more and more independent, and I thought I would be ecstatic about it; but I'm not. I love being needed by my children, because they give me a sense of purpose. What am I going to do when they don't need me anymore? I know they need to be more independent, but I am just not ready to give them that yet. I also know it is about them and not me, but I don't care I am going to be selfish a little longer.

I hope I do not sound like a crazy obsessive mom, because I know I am and I would hate for everyone else to know...lol I just love them so much, and soon it will be so different! My husband and I have started teaching them to have a little more independence and do more for themselves; but mom is not so good at it. I give in and do so much more than I know they need me too, but it is just hard to let go after being home with them daily for the last 4 years.

I try so hard to capture photos and videos of my children thinking it will make the moment last longer, but it doesn't. Don't get me wrong I am glad I have taken all the photos and videos I have, but it is nothing like hitting pause. It makes for a great memory later on, but as for staying in that moment...its no pause button. I use to look at it like a pause button, but I know in reality that it will be years before I see it again, and my children will be so much bigger and wiser!

I preach to everyone to capture that photo or video unedited to share with your children later in life. No one wants all their memories to be edited and posed, because that is not real!! I love having beautiful edited photos to show off on our wall or social media, but I am all about a real picture of our reality. I may not always post them or share them, but I have put them in a little time capsule for our future use!

So take the time to spend precious moments with your family when you can. I know many have busy lives and that makes it hard, but do not let your routine take over your life. You will miss out on so much if you do not step off the main road and enjoy life for what it is. When I look at my children and my husband all I can do is smile, because we may not get to have all the time in the world together; but when we are together life feels so surreal. 


August 4, 2017

Keeping Up with These Sprouts!



Why do our little ones have to grow like weeds? I go to the store or hop online and I find that perfect little outfit and it fits them perfectly...for a week! Ugh the frustration takes over and I just want to buy the same outfit in a bigger size, but what is the point?

I hate shopping and hate having to buy clothes to big, because they look ridiculous for a month then fit for a week, then BOOM their shirts are too tight and their pants are too short. Time to put it in a capsule to move on to the next sister or one of the local churches. Now we are back to shopping again!

I cannot believe how much money we have spent on clothes for our kids, and do not get me started on school clothes! That is a whole other story, and not a pretty one at that! I like my kids to look cute, but I also want them to be comfortable. I am not a materialistic, name brand needing mom, but my kids do need to be presentable. I refuse to let my children look like they are homeless (if they do I will not take them out in public...lol)

So my mission lately is to find a solution to this problem of keeping my children from running around looking like they are waiting for a flood, or wearing their brother's shirts! I am exploring different clothing companies delivering clothes monthly as well as thrift shopping (which can be more expensive that purchasing brand new).

I have tried online yard sale sights, but have had too many bad experiences of getting ripped off, so that ship has sailed. We do have a few churches that do free clothing give aways from donations they receive, but we are not in need like most so I will not take something someone else needs. I am not saying I would never use them, because there was a time when I didn't have a choice, but to take advantage of their kindness to make sure my child had what they needed!

I have been doing research lately about these clothing places online, and some offer memberships. I use to be weary of those types of sites, but after some research and calculating I would actually save money! It is shopping I know I will be doing anyway, because the kids are not going to stop growing. Why not give it a try?

I am so excited to try these companies out and I will be updating everyone when I decide where to start and what works best. Oh and also the best choice for a mommy who wants to save, but keep their kiddo styling. Finally going to get with the times and give the new options for parents a try!! If you have any suggestions feel free to comment below or email me anytime!!

The Next 5 Steps to Being a Budgeting Mommy!!


Moms are not the only ones intimidated by the word BUDGET. When people hear the word budget they associate it with math and school. Guess what it does not take a genius to do it. So I hope you read my previous post 5 Simple Steps to Start Being a Budgeting Mommy!, to get you budgeting. That was my sweet and simple directions for beginners, but now I want to tell you how we take that to the next level!!


Lets talk organization!! The most important part to my budgeting system and life is organization. Sometimes I wonder if I take it too far, but then I realized there is no such thing as being over organized. Especially when we need an old bill receipt, or an old pay stub...cause guess what I know right where it is!!


Now here are you next 5 steps Moms!! You can do it!!


Get a Box Folder


Step one is to go to the store, and find the office supplies section. Now look for a filing box that is easy to take out. I never get the same one so whatever you would like is fine really, just be sure it has lots of space! Below is a photo of the box I got this year, because they did not carry the one I got the previous year. 

Fill out Labels


Inside the folder you will see the labeling tabs sticking up now you will take a sharpie and you will start with a Section for empty Budget Sheets, next is Pay Stubs, next I usually do two sections for receipts (which I personally copy as many as I can on a page and toss the originals after a month or two because their ink wears of quickly; then after that I make a section for every month of the year followed by an open slot for our taxes. 
Also as a Side note on your budget sheets I file everything by month, so that means more than one budget sheet will go into the month file; because you should be doing one for every pay period!! 

File Necessary Paper


Now is the time consuming part, and that is putting everything in its place. If you start right at the beginning of the year it will not be time consuming. You will just be getting prepared if you start at the right time. If it is not the beginning of there year and you do not have everything together just file what you have or just start from whatever month it is! Another step to ad for the b

Pull out on Pay Day and Keep Updated


I like to keep my folder at my computer desk, because that is where I sit to take care of my bills and planning. Since it is already here I pull out my budget sheet and get everything started. I will also place my pay stub into the folder so I do not misplace it. It really is that simple to get started!
Now I can take my budget sheet to town and run all my errands (which doesn't always happen in one day), then when I return home I can go back to my desk and put in all of my receipts for the day and make sure to update my budget sheet. Also with this I would like you to start stapling bill receipts to your budget sheet! If I was unable to finish it all in one day I like to place everything in the very front section, so I can come back to it when necessary and take care of it.

Never Throw These Out

Now when the year ends and you are done with filing everything DO NOT THROW OUT. Put it somewhere out of the way, but not impossible to get to. On January 1st of the next year go find yourself another folder to start all over, and when you file your taxes be sure to go back to the previous folder and place those in the back of it. Trust me you will be thankful later!!

So moms keep up the good work and I promise you will love me next time you need to look for an old receipt or what ever financial paper it may be. Trust me these systems are worth your time. Setting them up is the most time consuming, but once you get rolling it is so simple and easy. You do not have to be a genius to budget your families finances.

August 2, 2017

Overwhelmed Momma!



Do you ever feel overwhelmed with your life or job? I know I do, so I wanted to share with you a few reminders to help ease your mind, and let you know you are not alone. These are not fixes to avoid, or take away the overwhelming feeling, because I am pretty sure there is not a way to do so. If there is I have not found one that actually works. Everyone has a breaking point!!

I have been staying home with my children for four years now, and let me tell you it is not an easy task. I felt so overwhelmed in the beginning, because I was used to being away from home! Kids are no easy task, and lets be honest you cannot expect your children to be perfectly behaved 24/7. Children are an unpredictable ball of question. You never know when that ball is going to pop, roll around, or simply be kicked right in your face..lol

Seriously though who is with me? I have my moments where I am on top of the world and I have this mom thing down. Yet other times I have this lost feeling of having no idea what I am doing, and how I am going to get everything done? Take a chill pill!! Yea if only there was a chill pill, but in this world there is not and when I get overwhelmed (deep breath)....I break down a little and shove it down, or move on.

The problem is once I have shoved so much crap down it all comes out at once, and it is not pretty. I am a baby and I will not freak out or have a raging fit, but I will break down and cry. I usually use the excuse of I have to poop, or I have to shower. That is my mom code of I am going to go break down while you guys give me some space! Even with my kids yelling through the door I zone into a place of dark ugly thoughts. I feel empty yet full at the same time. I ask where I went wrong, or what I am doing wrong. I know it is nothing, but it doesn't mean I don't wonder those things when I go to this place!

I see so many mom's that are just making these schedules and making nice little play dates; and wonder to myself where do they find the time, or do they have like a stunt double that helps them through their day!? Crazy right!?

When I get ready to walk out of the room I have chosen to release my pain, I take a deep breath and smile. In my heart I know that I am still a little sad or bothered, but I also know those little faces are out there waiting for mom! It makes all the difference in the world as to the look on my face when I enter their presence, and in that one moment I realize that..I am one of those moms. 

I know out there somewhere is someone wondering how the hell I do it, and envying my well organized life! I know this because they have said, but I overlooked the compliment! So why am I going to this dark place, and why am I questioning myself. I am better than that, and I know it is just a little fit! Yet it still gets me from time to time, and I am absolutely devastated when it does.



I know just about everyone visits this place from time to time; but my question is why and what gets us there? The answer I have come to find every time is LIFE! Life gets tough and sometimes it is good to breakdown and cry it out! We are not the person we are in that dark place, but a visit there is a reminder that we are just people and we are not invincible. We are not superheros, but we are human.


Next time you feel yourself questioning your worth or what have you, ask yourself...


What brought me to this point

What happened or what was said that made you break down? Did someone say something that hurt your feelings, or did you simply just not get your way? In order to understand what is going on you need to ask yourself what the trigger was.

Who has brought me to this point

Has there been a tragedy or a life changing event recently? Sometimes it can be a bunch of little things that are just adding up. Don't be afraid to admit if it was your own fault!! Did you simply not communicate something with someone and now you are paying for it.? Honesty and openness is key to any relationship, even with yourself. Do not lie to yourself to make yourself feel better!!

Where will I go now

Now you can catch your breath and thing beyond this moment. Am I going to be okay? Is there someone that I need to talk to? Sometimes for me I just need sometime with my babies to remind me that I am a good mother and I am doing a better job than I give myself credit for!

What has this taught me

So the biggest thing is what did this open your eyes to and how are you going to deal with the situation? Was it your own doing and you just need to move on, or was it the doing of others and you need to voice your opinion? 
Now take those answers and get on with your life! Do what makes you happy and keep living, without looking back. There is no need to hide from that dark place, just don't forget to come back out. We are all our own worst enemy and we all have our demons, but the truth of the matter is you will go further, and be better using these as a REASON rather than an EXCUSE. Make them the your reason to be better, and not the excuse to be a rotten piece of crap!


July 27, 2017

5 Simple Steps to Start Being a Budgeting Mommy!!


Everyone needs to budget and stay on track. I don't care who you are if you start living outside you means to impress someone. You do not need to have the latest anything, and kids will be fine in hand me downs! Let me give you little lesson of what I have learned about knowing where your money is going and keeping track of your dollars.


I know what a lot of people are thinking "I already live paycheck to paycheck". Well guess what when I quit working to be home with my children, and we went down to one income we were living paycheck to a week of being broke before the next pay check. Now we can actually make it to that next paycheck (most of the time). Either way our bills are always caught up!

To give you a little background about where my information is coming from, I am an accounting major. When I decided to stay home I told my husband that I wanted to go back to school so when all the kids grew up I would have a real career! Well I have 4 semesters to go, but I would like to help others learn a little more about their money.

Below is a list of steps to make budgeting fool proof and keep you on track!!

1. Be Smart about your spending!
Always pay what is important before you go out to eat, shopping, or to the movies. Just because you have money doesn't mean you should start spending (we all do it). Follow the Pinterest Link below to some really cute budget sheets and make it your bible. PAY YOUR BILLS!!! Never put a bill of not matter what. If you have enough to cover it by eating at home then you better do it!!


2. Be stingy with your money

As horrible as it sounds do not go handing out money for anyone to just go blow on something unnecessary, until bills are paid and necessities are purchased. On your budget sheet be sure to include groceries, gas, and toiletries your household is low on and in need of!
3. Don't be afraid to use you savings Apps and Coupons
I use to be afraid to hold up the line when shopping, but now I compare prices everywhere, and I use any coupons I can get my hands on. It doesn't matter how irritated that person in line behind you is because if you can have that much more money left over it is worth it! I know sometimes 50 cents doesn't sound like much but when you add in all the other saving it will surprise you!! 
4. Plan you shopping ahead of time
I like to have a plan of attack, because I do go shopping with my children. I know what is cheapest and at which store. I change up our food menu depending on what is on sale! I don't go crazy and over buy just because it is cheap, I buy what is necessary. When that is done I know that my family will not starve, but I also have to meal plan ahead of time by what is on sale!
5. Keep your receipts. 
As ridiculous as it sounds do not leave that receipt crumpled on your floor board. Have some envelopes on hand so you can store ALL of your receipts. Then when you add them up and see where you are overspending it will help you make adjustments during the next pay period.
This is all just for starts. There is so many thing you can do to stay on budget and keep your family financially stable! Do not be embarrassed that you are not rich or that you have had to reuse clothes on your children, and especially don't ever let anyone make you feel like you are not good enough because you do not have the newest car, phone, or a new home. Live with in your means and most importantly make sure your children are taken care of! As long as those little ones are happy then that is what should really matter.

Amazon Mom!


When you have a holiday approaching, or a birthday, do you go to the store to do your shopping? Or do you hop online and make your wishlist? I am an amazon mom all the way. I created an Amazon Prime account for our family about 5 years ago, and I love it. I save so much money around the holidays!  I Just build my wishlist and amazon sends me notifications when my items reach a lower price.
I usually take the time about two months, sometimes longer so I know I am getting my item for the best price. Yes I do still shop other places as well, because well lets be honest Amazon doesn't always have the lower price. I still will put items in my list so that way I know I am getting the better end of the deal. I save time and money shopping for the holidays and well as a family of 6 living off one income we can use all that we can SAVE!!

The even better thing as a money saving mom is you can use coupons. The have a section of manufacturers coupons that you can use when you shop. Oh and don't even get me started on the daily deals as well as Prime Day! Seriously take a look and think about it. You are buying things you would normally have to go to the store for and they are delivered right to your door.

For me as a mom it has been a dream come true...lol Seriously when I can take a trip of 5 stops and countless shopping and cut it down to one stop and a few items count me in! Especially when I have to take four little bodies on my shopping trips. After the first stop they are restless and then I have to take them out to eat, because we live out of town. Now if it is one stop we can make it until we get home to eat, go potty, and get a drink!

Amazon has been our saving grace for Christmas as well, because we avoid all the crowds and they have some of the most amazing deals during the holidays. The best part is no holiday crowd or long wait in line! We get in our wish list (which is prepared in advance) and order things as they go on sale or as we have the money. It keeps us from waiting until the last minute and the kids get a lot more for less!

So moms seriously they have a free trial for prime, and the perks you get with prime are to die for. You get so much with prime, plus to get a free trial; how can you pass that up. I know you will love and I know you will thank me for pushing you to check it out. There is so much great buys on amazon, and they even have great homemade products. Oh I forgot about the prime pantry where you can buy groceries!!

The most amazing thing about the prime pantry is if your are ahead on your shopping and you choose the slowest shipping when you check out you get free money to shop prime pantry products. Who doesn't love free anything? I know free food in our family is a gift in itself so I take full advantage of that when I do not need the product I am ordering right away. On the other hand if you do need that product right away you receive free 2-day shipping with Prime!

Call me lazy, but if someone will deliver my everyday essentials and I can sit at home in my jammies and hang out with my kids, I am all over it! I have very little time as it is to get things done and when it comes to shopping you can never even try to plan it out and estimate when you will be done and back home. Anything could happen, plus the amount of time you spend getting your children and extra crap ready and in the car! Ugh! Just bring me my laptop...lol
I would recommend doing your free trial and take a look at all the back to school deals for all those little ones need before class begins. They have some really great deals and their platform makes it easy to search and find products you need. Plus they compare prices for you from different places that market through them. Now you just choose what you want to pay and BOOM!! You are done!

So there you have from one mom to another! Try out Amazon Prime and let me know what you think!! There is so much more to share and so many great reasons to use Prime when shopping, but do not want to overwhelm you with information!!

July 24, 2017

Kicking and Screaming!!



I recently read a post about what type of person you are, by whether you see the glass as half full, or half empty. Well all I have to say to that is I am indifferent, because if my glass is half anything...its because one of my kids drank it. Life changes so much when you have children, like your image of children. Before having my own children I did not see what the big deal was about keeping your kid/kids under control. I mean come on you have like your own little army of brats that do as you say.

Guess what?!! I learned really quick that I was WAY off! Don't get me wrong they are an army, but not my army. They are the enemy troops out to destroy our home and push me over the edge. I fear for my sanity, and the memory of what our floor looks like. They do not have firing power, but have you ever stepped on a lego. It is like stepping on a shark with its mouth wide open. Good Lord why do legos have to be so awesome to play with.

So momma are you winning your war, or are you just reloading your ammo. I know people say routines will help make life with your children easier. Well give me the magical routine to wrangle these crazy turds and I will worship you forever. I have read so many blogs, and tried so many different organizational charts, routines, and art projects to calm our home. There is no calm or quiet! For crying out loud each of them either talks or snores in there sleep so its noisy all the time.

Just so I can clarify, incase I sound like I am complaining, I am not. I would not give up those turds for any robot child ever. No child should be perfect, clean, or well behaved all the time. As long as they have their hit and miss moments I am chalking that up as a WIN. This momma is tired, and needs energy all the time!

So what if I am screaming and wanting to pull my hair out its my own fault...lol I wanted to have kids, because everyone made it look so much fun. They all had an excuse to play with toys, watch kid movie, oh and don't forget the kiddy rides at the fair! When you are grown with no kids people won't hang out with you, but its dumb because I know they want to!!


The reason I have learned to enjoy and joke about the tantrums, the fighting, the arguing, and the downright rebellious nature of my children is because one day I am going to miss it. One day our little girls will be too girly to look for bugs under all the rocks, and our little boy will be chasing girls. I just remind myself that even though I want to push down the next child that moms me...I won't and not because its against the law...lol But because one day they will grow, and try to shut us out.

What will life be like without the crazy everyday war that goes on in our house? Who will bother me every time I get comfortable? Last but not least who will leave my glass half empty? I know one day there will be grand babies, but I also know it will not be the same.

One thing I would like to point out for those who are not mom bloggers. We are not complaining when we talk about the mishaps with our children we are merely venting to those who understand. Our blogs are our outlets, and well I love all the mom bloggers who share their true life and make me feel like I am doing this right.

We use to feel like we were not doing enough, and we were worried our children were missing out. We are not perfect, and we do not have a lot of money, but we came to realize our children did not care. Our children were not judging us or comparing us to other parents...we were doing it to ourselves. Now that I have met other bloggers and read their stories I know we are doing it all right!

Parents let us be ourselves, do not compare your parenting to others. If you see those sweet parents that use their nice little voice in public, Its because they lost their voice screaming at their children on the way to the store or what have you...lol Love the time with your children while they still need you every second of everyday!!

 

July 17, 2017

Don't Judge Anyone By Their Cover!!


I found it easier to write this post rather than video it. So i sit here with a lump in my throat and a knot in my stomach to share these words with you. 


My husband and I have recently received the news that our daughter has sleep apnea, and it is severe. We were not aware of our daughters condition. All we knew was our daughter was in pain for way too long, and we needed to do everything in our power to get to the bottom of it. We spent a year and a half in and out of the doctors office, and each time we were left clueless. We were beginning to think there was no end, or answers. But for our daughters sake we were not going to accept it as that. We were going to do everything we could for her.

The pain was getting worse and nothing was changing, and that is when the nice calm mom went out the window and I began demanding answers, and whatever testing they could run. We were finally referred to a specialist in Neurology, His first response when he looked at our daughter was tough to swallow but brought so much relief. He informed us she was having chronic migraines. WOW! We had an answer and he was going to help her.

After this news he knew we had to find the underlying problem to the migraines, and as a mother and father at our wits end we were ready. We have been forced to watch our baby be in pain on a daily basis, watching her become so lethargic she could not even recognize the urge to go the bathroom; watching our bubbly little girl become a couch potato with no desire to be a kid; and having to deal with her panic attacks that ended in her hyperventilating and passing out.


He gave us our first step in his professional opinion and he ordered a sleep apnea test. His office is hours away so to make things easier he sent the order to our local hospital. I waited for the call to set up that appointment and after weeks there was nothing.After months still nothing. We were still at this time calling every time she went downhill and got a migraine so severe she would fall to the floor. The doctor always had nothing to say, she was clueless. She would just tell me to keep and eye on her and give her Motrin or Tylenol.

This back and fourth game went on for about 8 months, and we were sick and tired of being set aside. We wanted answers; we wanted this test done! So after watching my daughter suffer the worst migraine she had ever encountered for 6 straight days that was it (yes I did whatIi could and I contacted the doctor several times during this 6 days). If I called one more time and they just told me to comfort her with pain meds I was going to lose my cool. I had to demand our doctor to see her, and it took calling the Neurologist hours away, to get him to tell our doctor that she needed to stop this episode.

My daughter was given a shot of muscle relaxer and as I waited for her medicine to kick in I questioned our doctor about our sleep apnea test that was order 8 months before this. She looked at me like I was dumb and said oh they cannot give her the test. I asked why. She said there is not enough reasoning for her to need one. The part that pissed me off the most is they knew about this for months and just forgot to tell me the request was denied, not once, but twice. So basically they were calling a specialist an idiot, because they did not think she needed to be tested.

As we left that office my 4 year old looked at me, with those bright eyes this pain has torn away from her, and with all the excitement in the world she said "Mom they Fixed me!". I got a lump in my throat and behind my sunglasses my eyes filled with tears, because this was only temporary; but I was not going to take that feeling away from her. I was not going to steal her glory and her happiness of the relief she given when her pain stopped. I was so happy for her, and even though she is only four I knew deep down I did not have to tell her it was not forever. She knew.

The following day I called our Neurologist, who again is quite a drive away, and I told him we could not get our local hospital to do the test. Within an hour he got our daughter an appointment to be tested, and it was such a relief. So now my husband has to take two days off work and we have to go out of our way to make the trip to get a test done, that should have been done long ago at our local hospital.

We weren't sure what to expect, we just knew that these people were willing to help us and help our daughter. The nurse and doctor were so amazing, and they made it so much more comfortable for us knowing they cared, and they wanted to help her. At first glance he did not see the number one sign that most kids show, which is enlarged tonsils, but that didn't matter he was still willing to help prove this or rule it out.

That night, as we watched our daughter get hooked up to all these different wires and machines, the nurse was such a big help. She talked with us, and talked us through the process and assured us this was a good choice. She talked about herself and her personal life, and she took that step to comfort our crazy thoughts of what is happening. She was wonderful and I wish I would have hugged her before we left and told her how amazing she made us feel.


When she came in the next morning to wake us up after all the testing, she looked right at us and did not deedle around the truth. She made us aware that our daughter has severe sleep apnea for a child, and this was on one hand so nice to have an answer, but on the other hand hard to take in. She explained what it all meant, and when it comes down to it our daughter is not sleeping properly, and she is getting about 20 minutes of deep sleep in the early morning hours. The scariest part to take in is that every 10 minutes at night our little girl stops breathing and her brain has to make her breath, which is what keeps her out of that deep sleep.

We are at our next milestone and are awaiting the referral to have her tonsils and adenoids removed. I write this, because it broke her father and I. It was affecting me everyday to deal with the difficulty of her lethargic actions, as well as the incontinence, and the whining I didn't know how to, and I will be the first to admit it. It was affecting her father on a whole other level, because he had to get up everyday and go to work, when so many times all he wanted to do is sit on the couch and cuddle with his hurting baby all day. We did not put our pain on others, or look for pity on social media, because this was not about us...it was about her and her pain.

I understand more and more everyday the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover". We are judged, not just my husband and ,I but everyone. We let others bring us down, and saddest part about it is we can deny it to the end...it does bother us, and we do care what others think. So when my husband is at work and he looks like he is going to explode, or you see me running around like a chicken with my head cut off; it is not because we are bad people or there is anything wrong with us. It is simply that we have a full book that we keep closed and this is just one small chapter of our lives. We don't share, because we don't want pity or charity, we simply have our focus on us and ours.

So next time you are running your errands, and you see that mother at wits end with her child; or you see that man standing at the gas pump next to you. Remember they have a story to, and just because of the look on their face; or the clothes that they wear, does not mean you have the right to put them down with a snooty look. Do not think you are better than, or that you have a right to judge them. No matter your successes...no matter your demons none of us can ever actually understand what the next man, woman, or child is going through.

One smile, one hello, even one nod of your head can do so much for someone in a bad situation. You don't have to become their friend or hand them anything. Your one simple gesture could mean the world to someone in an unimaginable situation or mindset.